Children educated, responsible adults
What kind of children being raised today’s society? Is protecting your self-esteem or overprotected and rude? Clinical psychologist Maria Mercedes Bonilla Greenberg spoke with “Health Monday” about the danger of not setting limits within the home. Today’s children are especially unable to handle frustration.
How do the dynamics of families today?
Threatened to basics: give your members the identity of base strong enough to cope with life events. this time proclaims absolute freedom, children and young people want to live a life absent of any authority or limit, and anything that promotes obedience or submission is frowned upon, arguing that it “may restrict the free decisions of the person.” But this attitude leads to disorientation, hopelessness and a sense of “commodification” of human beings, which can lead prisoners of their own profligacy. Another serious consequence of the new trends in education is a non-existent frustration tolerance that makes children tyrants in their homes.
Why should this change in the way of educating?
There are various streams and schools of thought on education … It has become fashionable to blame the parents of the potential success or failure of their children’s future, so that now many do not dare put any limits, they believe are “trauma” . A large number of parents are afraid to educate, to assume their adult roles. The over-the child makes useless.
What excuse is used to overprotective of children?
Many say they fear that the little something happens bad or suffering. And it makes sense to take care of their health and well being, but within a relatively safe, since both should help to develop their skills and then face their own challenges. Over protection is not education but is justified by “love.” Social maladjustment and problems in interpersonal relationships are typical of someone who thinks the world should revolve around their own pace. As Fernando said Saboteur (Spanish writer and philosopher): “For a family function educationally is imperative that parents take their role as adults. The parent who wants to appear as “the best friend of their children,” something like a crumpled playmate, does little, the mother whose only vanity is that they take it as slightly older than his sister’s daughter, not worth much more. Psychological attitudes certainly are understandable and family makes them more informal, friendly and fallible, but instead the formation of moral and social consciousness of the children goes wrong stop. This is a crisis of authority within the family. “
How is the imposition of limits healthy?
For children to grow into a responsible adult life is necessary in the family there are rules and limits, are met. Clear rules make the difference between what can and what not, and certainly give security to the children. It is important that parents be delegating responsibilities to them according to their ability and age. That makes them mature.
What is holistic education?
An ongoing process through which parents transmit to their children knowledge, habits, virtues and values and ways of acting, not only through words but for their own actions, feelings and attitudes. Also develop or improve upon the children, by precept and example, the senses and the intellectual and moral faculties.
What about extracurricular activities?
They are a good choice for children to develop their skills and talents and avoid watching television to pass the afternoon. The error is in believing that the more activities performed better, that’s tired and can lead to neglect their studies, and remember that the free play at home is very important.